By Ewere Okonta
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Let’s talk. And not with that sanctimonious mask you wear in church or the fake political correctness you post on Facebook. I mean really talk—about sex, parenting, politics, and God. Because somehow, we’ve managed to build a society where nobody is truly talking, yet everybody is screaming.
Let’s start in your house. Yes—your house. You have Wi-Fi, Netflix, and a 13-year-old with a smartphone, but no curfew, no conversations about sex, and certainly no parental control apps installed. But every Sunday, you drag that same child to church, expecting your pastor to do the parenting you’re too distracted (or scared) to do.
Now tell me—what’s raising your children? Because it sure as hell isn’t you.
Instagram has replaced moral instruction. TikTok is now the sex education classroom. And what do parents do? They fumble, they whisper, they blame “the devil.” Meanwhile, their kids are learning missionary, reverse cowgirl, and oral sex from their peers—and your silence.
Let me get into more trouble: We say “sex is sacred,” but we treat it like sin. We don’t talk about it in church unless it’s about adultery. We don’t talk about it in politics unless it’s to ban abortion or debate LGBTQ+ rights. We don’t talk about it in homes unless there’s scandal. So what we have now is a generation that is highly sexualized, completely uninformed, and dangerously confused.
Where are the fathers? Some are lost in midlife crises with girls young enough to be their daughters. Where are the mothers? Some are chasing beauty filters and validation from Instagram likes while their daughters are taught that cleavage equals confidence.
And here’s the joke: we still blame politicians for everything. As though your local councillor told you not to have “the talk” with your teenager. As though President Tinubu told you to let the internet raise your kids.
Let’s drag the church a bit, shall we?
Our pulpits are filled with men preaching prosperity while ignoring promiscuity. Pastors who will teach you about sowing seeds but not about setting boundaries. Who will shout about Jezebel spirits but are silent when it’s time to confront molestation in the choir or domestic violence in the marriage committee. Hypocrisy much?
And politics? Don’t even get me started. Politicians love to weaponize “family values” during campaigns, yet they fund no parenting programs, sexual education initiatives, or rehabilitation for broken homes. They legislate morality for votes but live double lives behind tinted glass.
So what’s the point of this sermon?
Simple: Wake up. Talk to your kids. Talk about sex without shame. Confront your own dysfunction before pointing fingers. Build homes, not just houses. Raise children, not statistics. And stop expecting the pulpit or parliament to do what your living room should’ve done.
If we don’t shift, this nation—this generation—will be raised by algorithms, porn sites, and influencers with ring lights and no conscience.
We owe our children more. We owe ourselves more. And God? He’s not impressed by your Sunday suits and midweek silence. He wants honesty. He wants action. And He’s asking, “Who raised this generation?”
This is my Midweek Sermon from my holy pulpit!
Ewere Okonta is the CEO of EOB Media. He is a family values advocate. He writes from the Department of Business Administration, University of Delta, Agbor.
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